Re-experience the past
This month, I have been “forced” to deal with my past intensively. The first reason is that I took the Reiki class. After the 1st level of Reiki class, I have to experience a 21-day cleaning process. The process may bring out some past experience from the past. For me, oh boy, it was hell of a ride. The thing is, when you re-experience your past, do you have a different viewpoint now? Or, you are still stuck in the hatreds, anger, and all other negative emotions and torturing yourself for the second time? Another thing is that are you really having a new viewpoint or do you just tell yourself that you have a new viewpoint? I have heard too many people said the following:
“I thought I have forgiven him/her, but I didn’t.”
“I can understand why he/she did it. I will just let it go.”
“It’s in the past. I will move on.”
I have seen too many people that think they have let go but they still carry those burdens for the rest of their life. Why? It’s your brain that is tricking you. You think it’s reasonable to do so. Did you 100% feel that it’s the right way to do and you have determined to do it? It’s like the queen in Snow White. She kept asked the magic mirror if she’s the prettiest one among them all. If she believed she’s the prettiest one when the mirror said so, why would she keep asking? No, she’d never believed in it. She knew by heart she’s not the prettiest one. (I have to say this may not be the most clear example.) Ok, in other words, there’s something underneath your forgiveness or moving-on speech that reflects what you really feel. You may feel angry. You may feel sad. You may feel like a victim. You may feel like deserted. It that something to trigger that heartache when you see your ex mucking his/her significant other. You think you have let it go, but you haven’t. Not at all…Ok, so…What can we do? (I really want say Avatar mini courses are extremely effective but you will “think” I am just too fond of it. Try it once! Then, you can tell me if that’s the truth.) One simple method to help is to breathe diaphragmatically (conscious breathing/ belly breathing). Then, when you give the forgiveness speech, try to see if you feel really lighter after saying that. Or, you are still stuck in some negative emotions. It’s not a good sign. You should be able to feel delighted, light, or have that smile on your face unconsciously. It is because you really release the negative emotions/energy from your body. You are not withholding it anymore. It’s not like, “yeah, you are just saying it.” You said that about other people, right? “Yeah, he’s just saying it.” How about you? Are you just saying it? Do you really know it by heart? Feel it. Don’t think about it…Try it!
